We all want to live a life with no stress and anxiety. Is this even possible with so many things to do and take care of? We are always planning for the next task we must complete. For the next meeting we have to prepare for, or the next future event that may or may not happen. With so much to do and anticipate for, how can we not stress or worry? What if it all goes wrong? Is stress and anxiety just part of life?
As someone who struggled my entire life with stress and anxiety I know first hand how most of you feel. It’s not that I don’t ever stress, but I have pretty much all but eliminated it from my life and here’s how.
Number 1: Separate from your thoughts
Sure we need some of our thoughts. The mind is a tool, sometimes. But most of the time our mind creates thoughts that are not needed. In fact, somewhere around 90% of all our thoughts are repetitive. What good do these repetitive thoughts have other than cluttering up our mind and world?
With so many useless thoughts it’s no wonder we are all stressing so much. How many times do you need to hear yourself say the same things over and over? By separating yourself from your thoughts you create space for no thought. This is where peace and serenity lives. This is your true home. There is no stress and anxiety here. Separating yourself from your thoughts can be done by just being aware of the thoughts. Be the person who is observing the thoughts. Watch your thoughts, but don’t buyin to them. Let the thoughts pass by like a cloud in the sky and feel how much calmer you become.
Number 2: Nourish your body and mind
The body and mind are one living organism that has a set of laws it adheres to for optimal performance. You wouldn’t put just any gas into your sports car. You wouldn’t water your garden with pop. Our bodies require the right kind of foods and nutrients in order to perform at a high level. When we aren’t feeding our bodies the right things, it will let us know. Too much sugar will make the brain go haywire and that will create stress and feelings of anxiety.
Sometimes we forget how important the right foods are. We take the fast and easy way out to feeding ourselves and those options aren’t usually the best. Feeding your body the right foods will reduce stress and anxiety. So ask yourself next time you go for that can of pop, “is it worth all of the stress?” Can I make a better choice for myself?
Number 3: Take time off
Living in a world with so many choices and so much to do we rarely, if ever are taking time off. What I mean here by time off, is not just taking a vacation, or taking a day off of work to get stuff done around the house. I mean real time off. Time off from your current life situations. Not just moving your life situation to the beach with you, but actually leaving it at home. Take a good book with you instead and leave the cell phone in the room. Take time to just be with yourself. This will allow you to practice more of number 1: separating from your mind. It will also allow you to contemplate what is truly important to you, which for most of us is to just be at peace. Peace is always inside of us and if we don’t take time off to find it, we might never find it.
Number 4: Practice gratitude
We are so good at taking things for granted. We don’t even notice we are doing it. Again, life is so busy it is easy to miss all the good. Practicing gratitude is a sure fire way to eliminate stress and anxiety. Make a list of all the things you have that others around the world don’t. If you are reading this, chances are you are one of the fortunate humans on this planet that can afford a cell phone, a computer, a car, a place to live, and the ability to go and do almost anything you want. Be grateful you have a job, a career, a family, a life. Life is not guaranteed. You might not be here tomorrow, so take today and be grateful.
Number 5: Eliminate toxic negativity
If you truly want to live a stress free life, you have to do more of this. Stop watching the negative news. Stop hanging out with negative people. Stop watching true crime shows. All of these things bombard our minds with the wrong things.
Our minds are like gardens and what you plant in your garden will always grow. So are you planting dark thick vines, or are you planting flowers? It doesn’t matter how mentally strong you think you are, what you surround yourself with will translate to your thoughts. Negative thoughts always lead to stress and anxiety. Instead, you can read a good book. Watch a positive show. Surround yourself with positive people. Or, just hangout with mother nature more. She is the ultimate teacher and guide to help eliminate stress and anxiety.
Life does not have to be hard. Life does not have to be full of stress, anxiety and worry. Life is a gift that keeps on giving. Are your hands open to accept the gifts? It is always a choice. It’s always your choice.
If you, or anyone else you know wants some help in reducing stress and anxiety, please go online and schedule a call with me. I am currently taking on new clients and would love to chat.
-ZDC Co-Founder, Jeremy Torchinsky